Many people have actually developed more elaborate standards for deciding whether to call someone a friend or just an acquaintance. Luckily these means of decision-making go beyond the sadly common way of treating most of one's contemporaries as somewhat equally trusted interlocutors. But then there are also the good friends and the best friends. Oh, how misused these adjectives are... Maybe too many have succumbed to the American standards of empty talking. "I'll call you" means "It was nice, but don't bother me again" and "We must have lunch some day" means "You are really quite interesting, but still don't bother me again."
In any case, no one should have more than two or three good friends at the most. It is not so much about having sublime standards as it is about having a good sense of whom to call a friend. And thus I can say that I have but two friends and no supreme best friend at the current point in time. But there are some entertainers - the ones who amuse me, whom I don't care about, whom I can do what I want with.
I wonder what my utterances and produced sounds sounded like if I didn't pay any attention to them. Remembering sounds and tones is really easy for me and I also like to monitor changes and variations of the latter. The tone we use for speaking changes a lot actually, as does the way we laugh, or the way we position our hands. Changes occur over time and are triggered by environmental, social, and other kinds of variables. Often a single isolated situation might affect some habits of sound production in an instant - like being made fun of for laughing like a donkey. Yet most commonly or generally rather the changes can be classified as being age-related. So have you paid any attention to that? Do you practice speaking so as to choose a pitch or a timbre you like? If not, then try it. And give some thought to the vocabulary you use because speaking beautifully matters a lot...
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